Sunday, 7 April 2013

Jokes in Pidgin English (41) - Quarrel quarrel for earth, settle for heaven!



He get people wen dey like quarrel. Dem love quarrel. Quarrel be like food for them. Especially women but some woman men are also implicated in this diagnosis. He get people, when dem wake up in the morning, dem go dey look for quarrel to use brush mouth, bath and take breakfast with quarrel. Quarrel be like daily medicine. If them nor quarrel for the whole day, dem go sick for lack of exercising their quarreling capabilities and mouth prowess. Dem dey look for quarrel from anywhere:
If you nor greet them, them go say: ‘You nor dey greet person. Who be your mate?’ Quarrel don start.
If you greet them, them go say: ‘Na so your mate dey greet? Na so dem dey greet for your village?’ Quarrel don start.
If you greet them, ‘Good morning, Madame.’ Quarrel don start. ‘Na who you dey call Madame. You think say I be old Mama. How many years I take senior you?’
E get one lady wen dey like quarrel. She dey like to be involved in quarrel either as an originator, participant, contestant, or judge. One day, she just dey dull. She never quarrel that day and its 5pm. She never take her quarrel medi’ci’ne for that day. She come see two young boys arguing and fighting. She happy:
‘Why, why, why, why, why who na dey quarrel? Who na nor know say quarreling and fighting nor good? Wetin start this quarrel? Who start this quarrel? Who na nor dey talk?’
The boys reply: ‘Nor be quarrel we dey o. Na play play fight we dey.’
‘Oh… Hmmm... OK na…’

Jokes in Pidgin English (40) – Pregnant Lady, Part 2!



Scene 1:  A lady with an advanced pregnancy went out with an outfit that revealed much of her cleavage; and thanks to her pregnancy state, she was quite the ‘boss.’ Sometimes, I feel that some ladies use their pregnancy as an excuse to dress in whatever way they please. After all, ‘They can see that I’m heavy. Nobody can talk to me or challenge me or toast me.’ Imagine what might be going through the mind of that baby in the womb assuming the baby is aware of what’s going on.

‘Mama, why now? Why you dey advertise my natural food reservoirs? Nor be Cowbell or Peak Milk you carry ooo. Those things you are showing belongs to me and me alone. Wait until I come out now! Na den you go know who be the owner and who be onlooker.’

Na those kind children wen dem born them, and dem dey house with the mother, dem go keep quiet, no cry for breast food. Na wen the Mama dey middle of ‘Molue’ commercial bus, na that time dem go show themselves. ‘waiiii, waiii, waiii (crying)’ dem wan breastfeed in the presence of the world. Na that time u go see ‘aproko/tatafor/oversabi’ passengers dey say, ‘Madam give am breast now. Give am breast make him keep quiet.’ Na then you go see some mothers dey consider the rationale behind the publicity of private properties/equities. My own question be say, ‘Why not also consider this while pregnant?’


Scene 2: One pregnant woman come for labour. As the pain start, na so she start. She insult and curse the husband, the baby, the in-laws, the relatives, the nurses, the doctors and everybody who was within range. She come dey curse, dey curse, dey insult everybody especially the husband. All efforts to calm her down failed. Everybody assume say na because of the pain make her dey do like that. Hmmm…

The question be say, ‘Na only she don carry belle before? Na only she don enter labour ward before? If some people dey feel labour pains, dem go dey sing praises, some others go dey pray. While others dey do everything other than insult people. Why be say this one own different?’

You see this is what is called ‘opportunity’. E get things this woman don dey keep for mind since, fear nor make her fit talk. Now now, when she dey labour now, she come use that as excuse to let out all the venomous curses she had harboured inside. She curse ‘shege’ for the husband body because she know say when the baby show, all sins shall be forgiven. Well, make she remember say anything said, na record o. Even if no repercussions now, one day, somebody go dial ‘play’ for that record.

You know the true character of a man or woman may be revealed in moments of pain or anger. If you get bad mouth before and now you come dey pretend say you be quieti, the day wen you go vex or dey in pain, that ‘bad mouth’ shall be revealed in true colours. So too, if you get good character true true, the day of pains and anguish shall reveal your nobility and goodness. Na so i see am o. I rest my case!

Monday, 1 April 2013

Jokes in Pidgin English (39) – Pregnant Lady, Part 1!



Scene 1: One pregnant lady went to a public place with a see-through outfit. I mean you can see every including baby bump. Just imagine wetin dey go thru the mind of the baby: ‘Mama, na wa for you. You think say you still be omoge abi. When you drop me now, you don turn mama pikin o. Which one be this one na? Why you dey use me do show glass?’


Scene 2: There was this pregnant woman who visits ‘Mama Put’ restaurant all the time. Every day na Mama Put. Imagine wetin dey go thru the mind of the baby: ‘Mama, which one you nor dey! Everyday na Mama Put? Wetin do Mr Biggs, Tantalizer, Chicken Republic, GT Plaza? You think say I nor know better thing? This one wen you dey do me so, hmmm… No wahala, my time dey come. In some months time, my time go come. You go hear am…’


Scene 3: There was this woman who got pregnant for the seventh time. She did not want the pregnancy but the husband insisted on keeping it. Every day, she complains about the pregnancy to everyone who cares to listen: neighbours, relatives, friends, co-workers, health workers etc. she speaks ill of the pregnancy. Imagine wetin dey go thru the mind of that baby: ‘Mama, na me be this? You think say I nor dey hear you abi? You dey yab me follow town abi? Na my fault? Na me cause am? I nor dey there when this thing happen o! As you dey yab me so, no wahala, my time dey come.’

Fun Experience on the Road!


I was travelling yesterday and I saw a big truck/lorry that broke down on the highway. At the back of the truck was the notice that read, 'Such is Life.' How succinct! No wonder the truck had mechanical failure. Instead of using, ‘God is good,’ ‘Life is good,’ ‘All is well,’ the owner chose a theme that reflects the hard condition of life; ‘Such is Life.’ ‘Why the lorry nor go break down?’

I also met a long traffic jam and I saw men in military uniforms clearing the traffic. It made me wonder, ‘What’s now the role of the Nigerian military? Traffic men? Why is it that now every problem requires the presence of the military?’
When there are insurgents (North or South), the army is sent on the streets.
When there’s an armed robbery attack especially on banks, the army is sent on the street.
When there is a strike (NLC), the army is sent on the streets.
When there is a peaceful protest (fuel/UNILAG change of name), the army is sent on the street.
If a higher institution is closed down, the army is sent.
When there’s road block, the army is sent on the street.
If you hit the vehicle of an army man, the army is sent on the street.
An army man broke traffic law and was held… fill in the blanks.
An army man in mufti went to a brothel and there was an altercation. At the end, guess who came out on the street.
When VIPs need escorts, the army is sent.
When the Oga on Top has a toilet emergency, please guess what will happen.
The uniform once had a lot of respect. Now, I wonder what’s going on!

Wednesday, 20 March 2013

Our Limitations make us who we are!


There are times we earnestly wish we have super-powers that can make us do good things that are considered impossible from the human point of view. If you are a doctor and you are faced with a very difficult emergency and you are at the verge of losing your patient, at such times, you would wish you have supra-human abilities to restore your patient to good health. If you have a beloved family member or close friend who is in critical danger, you would wish you had powers to do the impossible and save your loved one. When you are running late for a very important appointment or engagement and you are stuck in traffic, you would wish you had the ability to grow wings and then fly to your destination. When we are faced with disappointments and unforeseen events, we would wish we had the power to see into the future. ‘I wish I knew there would be a mishap, I won’t have sent him on an errand,’ you would say. Recently, in the Florida, USA, 36 year old Jeff Bush was in his bedroom when suddenly the floor caved into a sinkhole and he was swallowed alive. Jeremy Bush, Jeff’s brother tried frantically to dig him out and failed; he had to be pulled out himself by rescue workers. Jeremy said he heard his brother calling his name but he could not help him. He would wish he had more powers.

Well, sometimes we do the seemingly impossible and we perform heroics in daily life that defy common knowledge and experience. Yet, on many occasions the best of human efforts may not be enough to save the day and at such times we would wish we had extra-ordinary abilities. From these instances, some would raise questions like: ‘Why? Why aren't we created or made with the abilities to do more? Why don’t we have the eyes of eagles so that we see much further? Why don’t we have the smell sense of dogs and perceive dangers quicker? Why am I limited in my ability to use my brain? Why can’t I do more: fly like the birds; disappear like the wind and materialize at will; jump down heights like a lizard; swim endlessly like fishes? Yes, we may wonder why we are not more independent and have more control on our lives. We may ask why we have to depend on other imperfect humans to meet many of our needs. Why can’t we just do it all?

It’s important to note that our limitations are different from our imperfections. The scriptures show that the first man was created perfect but in a good way, he was limited. He had a perfect body but that body was limited to depending on oxygen in the atmosphere and to depending on food provided by the trees and crops around him. He needed water to survive. He got exhausted and felt the need to sleep. He could not live alone as he was later given a wife to complement him. He was not a jobless loafer who had it all; he was given the job of naming animals, procreation and raising a large family, and helping to cultivate and expand his abode. He was perfect but he also had to depend on other people and things for companionship, friendship, and other basic needs of life. And this was a good thing. His limitations made him amenable to developing qualities that would endear him to others. He had love for his wife who loved him in return. He had to be humble and seek help because he knew he could not have it all on his own. He learnt the rules of co-existence and boundaries: he knew certain things were wrong and that there were consequences to his actions. He had to learn because there was so much he did not know and so many things he needed to know. There was a large fountain of knowledge around him: amazing earthly creatures and breathtaking natural sceneries. The limitations he had made him a more lovable and endearing individual, husband and partner. It made him the kind of man who could live in peaceful and loving harmony with other beings. He had a free will to make choices and also had a conscience to guide him to making healthy choices. That conscience reminded him of the consequences of his actions. Much later, he acted on his own accord to break the rules of the co-existence between him and his creator. He then suffered the consequence of his wrong actions and became imperfect. Imperfect in that he now had the tendency and propensity to sin and make wrong choices. He was now prone to making errors and mistakes which were not part of his previous perfect make-up. He became imperfect but he was not made that way. He had limitations from the beginning but his imperfections were of his own making.

Jesus was perfect but he had his limitations too. He was born as a child with no knowledge of whom he was or where he came from. He was a blank slate and was just like every child. He was defenseless on his own. He needed what children would need today. He needed loving parents who would feed, nourish, train and protect him. They taught him how to read, write, listen and learn. He needed food, water, clothes and a home. Even as a grown adult, he still needed those things. He was perfect, not prone to errors and mistakes like other men, but he was limited in his earthly form as a human being. Don’t get me wrong, as an adult man entrusted with the duties of conveying God’s message on earth, he had supra-human powers that could avail him of a lot of things. But, he exercised restraint in the use of those powers so that he could go through the length and breadth of human experiences and thus was more in tune with the human emotions of happiness, surprise, fear, sadness, pain, anger and the likes. He was actually hungry and tired on occasions. He actually felt the need to sleep. He felt the pain, the agony, the raw emotions involved in all the travails he went through in his earthly existence. The limitations he had and those he chose to exercise made him a better human being and that enabled him to be a more loving, caring, and understanding messenger here on earth.

Let’s go back to the first man on earth. Now, imagine that the first man had no limitations. Imagine he could do it all. He was emotionally contented and self-satisfied. Hence, he did not need companionship, friendship or kinship and thus did not need to develop qualities of love, kindness, mildness or graciousness. He had control over his respiratory system and needed no air from the atmosphere. He could live in isolation and avoid contact with the outside world. He does not need to clean up after himself. He could live in any environment: air, sea, land; and at any time he pleases. He does not need food or some particular kind of food; he could make do with anything: soil, metals and others. He does not need to pass out his waste or excrete waste products in such a way that would require him cleaning up and keeping his environment hygienic and safe. He does not need to develop good hygiene and practices that would keep him and his environment in good working order. He does not need to develop the qualities of peace, wisdom, strength and the knowledge required to live in harmony with other humans and living entities in his environment. He is self-sufficient and self-reliant. He’s independent and fully in control of everything around him. He could easily tell the future and thus, does not need the qualities of good planning, foresight, humility and others that are involved in securing a happy and rewarding future. Just imagine that for a minute. It’s a fact that the more powers and abilities we possess, the more independent we tend to be. Yes, the less our limitations, the less we feel the need to belong to a family or community or group or nation; or abide by certain rules and regulations. Imagine we could do all that. How cold and bitter and unloving this world would be.

 Picture a world where we can individually take care of all our needs. We don’t depend on others for anything. We have our own plantation where we grow the food we need. We have our own home stocked with all the things we would ever need. We can go to wherever we want with our mode of transport: no need for any form of public transport.  Let’s say we can procreate on our own. No need for male and female union. We are emotionally contented: no need to seek companionship or friendship or kinship. No need for communities or an organized group. No need for any governing authorities or security forces. We are capable of securing our own safety and well-being. We are individually equipped to live a wholly independent and self-serving existence. Yet, as human beings, we are part of the earth’s ecological make-up. We are part of the cycle of living existence. Think of the way the earth is structured. The trees take up the carbon dioxide we expel from our lungs and they in turn bring forth the oxygen that we need to survive. There are numerous examples of the interdependent symbiosis between living and non-living entities in this world and this helps keep our world in good balance. This relationship also exists among humans. We need each other. But what if the world was just like what I just described. What if we are so powerful that we don’t need each other? That would be bad for our collective existence. As bad and as imperfect as this world is now, the fact that we need one another helps to promote our existence. No human can take care of all his needs. Take food as an example. Some are farmers and they cultivate the raw ingredients we need as food. Others are involved in transporting this food to storage facilities and markets. There are also marketers who are responsible for bringing these items to consumers. There are governmental authorities who put in place rules and measures to ensure the safety, availability and affordability of these food items. There are communities that rear and produce livestock while other communities produce crops and edible plants. Each community makes items that other communities need and as a result, different communities depend on one another. They make concessions, sign agreements, and make peace with one another in order to benefit from one another. As individuals, we recognize the value of others because we need them to help provide vital goods and services that we can’t achieve on our own. We have physical, emotional, spiritual, psychological and social void that can only be filled by a mutual relationship with other humans and other living creatures. We were made in such a way that we depend on others. We are limited in the things we can do for our own well-being and that compels us to seek and work towards a cordial and harmonious relationship with others. If we were not made with needs that can only be served by others, it would be difficult for us to develop qualities like love, wisdom, humility, kindness and other endearing qualities that ultimately make it possible for us to live harmoniously with others.

We are limited in our physical abilities. We can’t walk or run a long distance without getting tired and exhausted and so we depend on means of transportation made available by fellow humans. We have hands that can do a lot of things. It can carry loads of items but they are limited in what they do or carry. So we get machinery that can help us lift heavy and delicate items. We can communicate our thoughts in speech but we are limited by how far our voice can go and how much and how far our ears can hear. Hence, we need a medium that can convey our messages over a short and long distance: speakers, letters, fax, phones, radio, television, internet and others. We also recognize our bodily frailties. Hence, we realize the need to take care of our bodies, take good nutrition, exercise, learn about our health and wholesome lifestyles, seek medical assistance, make savings, get insurance and make efforts to make the best of our limited existence. In order to achieve these goals we depend on other people and thus, we are more willing to listen to others, engage in constructive discussions and seek more ways to ensure our well-being.

Men have gifts and special skills in music, writing, arts, sports, entertainment, while others are blessed with a keen sense of innovation, creativity, leadership, speech-making and a lot more. No human being has it all. While we share a lot in common with others, we are individually unique. If we are gifted, it’s almost always in a particular profession or field of interest. Few people are gifted in many fields of human endeavour and even those individuals are limited in other areas as well. An individual who has a gifted voice often need an equally gifted instrumentalist, songwriter, manager, and others to produce soul-stirring music. A good painter needs the tools made by an ingenious inventor and discoverer. A gifted athlete often needs a brilliant coach to nurture and groom those talents into a successful career. Yes, we are only so gifted; we do need good teachers from our early school days to spot and nurture certain talents we display. We also need parents that would provide a loving home and support. We need others like coaches, teachers, marketers, entrepreneurs, and agencies that would provide the enabling environment needed to develop and nurture those talents. Whatever gift we have, our limitations as human beings make it’s necessary for us to develop qualities like hard-work, discipline, humility and others; we are better off with these qualities and as a result the world around us is a much better place.

There is one unique feature of our limitations. No human being was self-made. We were born or brought forth into this world with the help of others. We did not create ourselves. No human being alive now evolved from a plant or lower animal or from any inanimate object. We did come from outer space. This very fact is humbling. No advance in human science or knowledge could dispute this miracle of fertilization and birth. More importantly, we did not grow into full adulthood in the womb. Rather, we were born into this world as loving and beautiful creatures, yet weak, defenseless, fragile and completely dependent on our parents or guardian for nourishment, clothing, shelter, emotional support and other things needed to ensure our growth and development into adulthood. When we were born, our brain was like a clean slate. Even though we developed some basic senses right from the womb like hearing and we could thus hear sounds from the womb, when we came out into this world, we needed others to help us develop communication skills.  We needed others to teach us about the world around us. We needed support to learn how to move around; learn how to read and write; how to acquire food, water and clothing; and how to be part of humanity! We came into this world with no skill set or the requisite knowledge needed to survive. We thus needed parents, guardians, teachers, instructors, counselors, coaches, friends, and others with whom we interacted on a daily basis to help us gain the right skills and knowledge.

Today, people talk about the erosion of privacy and family values with the advent of easy internet connectivity, social media, new apps, smartphones, camcorders, webcams, and the likes. More and more persons are getting access to vast amount of personal and private information and data of other people. Many complain about losing their privacy. Now, imagine we live in a world where people had super-hearing abilities. You could hear whispers from far away. We have microscopic and telescopic vision. How would that bud well with the quiet moments we like to share alone or with our loved ones! How comforting to know that we could speak our heart to a trusted friend or professional confident that the information is private and no one could listen in. It would be terrible if we can’t do that. Do we really want microscopic vision to see the millions of germs in our environment with our bare eyes? Sometimes, when we chance upon an ugly scene, do we not usually wish we did not see it and if possible that such scenes could be expunged from our memories? Even in the age of space satellite, we still have and cherish our privacy. Humans are curious by nature but there are things nobody wants to see or hear. We would prefer not to see or hear or even know about some very bad or painful events. We are usually grateful when we are spared some bad news. We are better off not knowing everything.  We feel safe when we know we can run from danger knowing that the enemy is limited in the degree and extent of harm he/she could cause. We feel safe knowing that the enemy can’t grow wings to fly, can’t disappear and reappear at will, can’t just materialize in our living homes and can’t just cause us harm whenever or wherever he/she so pleases. No matter how powerful or talented or evil the enemy is, there’s always a limit to how much harm he/she can cause. We are better with our natural limitations.

Let's be grateful that God, in his infinite wisdom, limited our abilities. Just imagine we could read other people's minds. How bad would that be? What could go wrong? Sometimes, we wish we could read the mind of a would-be killer and protect ourselves and others from harm. We wish we could easily tell when a man is lying or scheming to do something bad so that we can take steps to protect ourselves. When we have this wish, let’s remember something else. How grateful we are that other people can’t read our minds. We come across lots of people every day, some we like and some we don’t like but we feel safe with the knowledge that they don’t know what we are thinking. Even when we love someone, we are assured that our secret is safe with us until we are ready or until when it’s proper to reveal our inward thoughts to that person or someone else. Don’t we feel violated and our privacy invaded when an unauthorized individual gains access to personal information that we thought were private and confidential? Even when our friends or loved ones look through our phones or messages without our permission, we get upset. We respect the privacy of others because we expect them to respect our privacy in return. How we cherish private moments when we shut out the world outside and have refreshing rest; confident that no other human can peer into our privacy at will. So, when we’re exasperated by our limitations, like when we can't prevent harm from coming to someone we love, let's remember the harm that others can do were they empowered to fly, read minds, become invisible, and the likes. Let's not blame God that we're limited but let’s be grateful for the amazing qualities we possess and recognize that there is a higher goal and purpose in our collective existential limitations! Indeed, we are better off with our limitations.

Short Fiction – Darlington and his wife!




Let me tell you a story. It’s a plausible fictional story. Take it as a parable that’s meant to drive home a moral lesson. There was this Businessman who was a chronic bachelor for many good years. He was a great cook and one of his favourite pastimes was going to the market, buying fresh food items, cooking and enjoying his meals. He likes having fresh edible ingredients. Hence, he knew the fish market, the goat meat market, the abattoir for fresh cow meat, the fowl joint where he buys live chicken, and then gives it those who will slaughter it in his presence. He also knew where to get fresh vegetables and all kinds of fruits. So, instead of eating out, he looks forward to his meals. When you see him, he had this plump and healthy look. His business was doing fine as well. It was a very sweet story until he got married.

At a point he felt it was time to have a family, so this man now in his forties went home to get a wife. This lady didn't know her husband was a great cook. The marriage was more or less arranged by the couples’ parents. Now a married man, our friend decided to hands off kitchen affairs. After a while, he noticed the wife spends far more on cooking than he did as a bachelor. The wife was also spending so much money on clothes, jewelries and other costly items. Meanwhile the wife was a stay-at-home wife. My friend wanted to have children ASAP because time was not on his side, so he had asked the wife who was a graduate not to work. He endured the wife’s excesses in the hope that when the children come along, things will change. Unfortunately for him, the children did not come soon enough. All of a sudden, there was a high level of insecurity in the city where he lived. Many businesses, including his, suffered. The money was no longer coming as usual. The stress was showing on his physique; the once plump man began to lose weight. All the while, the wife was not wise enough to see that the tide was turning. She was still demanding and spending as ever. To her, it was business as usual.

One day, things came to a head. After a very bad week of business, he decided to take the weekend off to relax at home. He gave his wife money to prepare one of his favourite meals. The wife said the money was not enough. He became upset but he didn't show it. He took the money from the wife. He asked the wife not to worry. He now went to the market himself, just like his old premarital self. After buying all the necessary food items, he got home and prepared the meal himself. He then set the table, dished the food and invited the wife to join him. After tasting the food, the following conversation ensued:

Wife: Whoa, D, this food is delicious o. I didn't know u knew how to cook like this. D, please you should be doing this more often o.
Husband: Now that you have mentioned it, I've been giving it some thought. I've decided to be doing this more often. As a result, I’ll be spending less time at work. Since you won’t be doing the cooking, I've also decided that it is time you start working.
Wife (interrupting): Hey D, I was joking o.
Husband (letting out years of repressed anger): Look Cynthia, don’t D me. I’m not the letter of an alphabet. My name is Darlington and please don’t interrupt me when am talking. You have a degree in English. The proprietor of the school nearby is my friend. I've called and he agreed to employ you as a teacher. Instead of using your English to impress the neighbours, you should use it to impress your pupils and students. And henceforth, whatever you earn from your job is what you will use to buy any personal items you want. My advice: spend it wisely. Don’t worry about food and other household items; I’ll take care of them.
(The wife could not believe her ears.)
Wife: honey, you can’t be serious!
Husband (raising his voice): I’m the head of this house and the decisions I make is final.

Friends, to cut the long story short, life never remained the same again in the household of Darlington and Cynthia.

Reflections (7) – Short Notes (Part 3)



Lance Armstrong

I was one of those who believed that he did not cheat his way to success. Think of it: How would a man who beat cancer and shone against all odds be a cheater in sports. Well, surprise surprise, as he admitted eventually at the Oprah Winfrey’s interview, he doped and cheated in all of his 7 Tour de France wins. Maybe, just maybe, he could have won without cheating. But now, we will never know. He will never know. Sometimes in life, we have great opportunities to prove our true worth; to gain the refreshing satisfaction of working hard and achieving honest and well-deserved success without cheating or cutting corners. If we miss that opportunity of showing what we truly are and what we can really achieve, we would have missed an enormous opportunity: we will never know if we could have done it on our own natural abilities. What ignorance!

The Bolt Phenomenon!

William Shakespeare wrote in the Twelfth Night:

“Be not afraid of greatness:
Some are born great,
Some achieve greatness and
Some have greatness thrust upon them.”

Borrowing from such words of greatness,
I humbly submit:

“While many achieve greatness,
A few define or redefine what greatness is!”

Usain St. Leo Bolt is a sterling example of those who’ve redefined what greatness is. The typical
100 metres sprinter is of average height and stout built. Tall, lanky Bolt does not fit the profile. Yet with a height of 1.95 metres (6 feet 5 inches) and slim built, Bolt defied the odds and rewrote the science of athletics in becoming the fastest man alive. Like the Brazilian Ronaldo de Lima in the heyday of his football career, Bolt is nothing but a phenomenon that is still unraveling. Kudos to a legend extraordinaire!

On a side note, let me say this: ‘I’m not remembered because I did everything right. I’m remembered because I did not allow the fear of being wrong or the fears of failure deter me from doing what I thought was right.’